- Comparing. A friend recently shared these 3 words with me, “You Do You”! They stuck and I share them with you in hopes that you also see the beauty in these words. Comparing steals the joy of what you do have.
- Believing social media posts are real. Anyone with a picture-perfect social media profile may be running or hiding from the moments that we all know we have The vulnerable, rotten, painful days. We all have them. Don’t get stuck on pictures that do not tell a whole story.
- Allowing others to tell you how to feel. We all feel differently and we all cope differently. If you need a little more time to process something, it is ok. There is not a right and wrong when it comes to feelings.
- Not Setting Boundaries. Here is another quote from a friend that has stuck with me, “Boundaries Are Our Friends”. Think about that, setting limits is healthy. We cannot do everything for everyone an s still have time or energy to take care of ourselves. Setting limits doesn’t mean you don’t care, it means you realize how important it is to not run out of energy for you.
- Excessive worry. I am so guilty of this. I worry and do not allow my brain to rest. It is so unhealthy. I am finding ways to try to stop.
- Not asking for help. Those friends and loved ones in your inner circle – they want to help. On your roughest days, ask for help. It may be picking up your child at school, or grabbing milk from the supermarket. Whatever it is, if it will help to take a little of your load away- then do it.
- Reading Minds. We are not mind readers so we should not try to guess what someone is thinking. Ask. The anxiety we create in the guessing is not worth it. We may not like the answer, but, at least we will have it.
I know so many of these sound so simple, yet so many of us struggle to make them work. If we all take a little time each day to be present and aware of what we need, what we are doing and what small change we can make, we will be making progress.
